Grandma Goff and Sister Drama

ok... so...
Grandma Goff is in the nursing home in Rhode Island and is basically now throwing my mother under the bus. I could get in to all the schematics of it but.. basically... my mother has lived her entire life catering to my grandmother and my grandfather when he was alive.
When my mother was little and the entire time she was growing up and even during adulthood... my grandfather promised my mother that their house would be my mother's when they were gone. Well... my uncle schemed the way he always has to screw my mother over.... and managed to have the will changed and give himself 50% of the home once both my grandmother and grandfather have passed. My grandfather passed January 1999 and so, now my uncle owns 25% of the home that was promised to my mother.
I dont think you want to hear all that...
so... my uncle is back at it again messing with my mother... and so my mother had to bring the trustee lawyer in to see my grandmother and my grandmother immediately told the lady that she wants to sell the house.
My mother is living in my grandmothers house and my father and brother are there with my mother. My mother owns a home on the same street as my grandmothers and my sister, brother in law, niece and nephew are living in there high and dry.... ($1200.00 plus a month mortgage x 15 months.... you do the math...)
my brother in law does NOT work... my sister does NOT work.... my brother in law gets some minimal VA benefits.... (maybe $300 a month) my sister attempts to do her 15 thousandth different home business (party lite) and is a bus monitor during the school year (huh?)
she is going to school part time... when she had the opportunity to do so when she was 18... and flunked out... and has since been taking courses at 3 different colleges in the 15 years since then....
My brother in law has had a bazillion different jobs that were always "ALWAYS WHAT I WANTED TO DO!" and quit ALL of them.... worked 2 days at the casino recently but was TOO good for that... but when your resume is splotchy with minimal days worked... you ain't too good for anything! GO TO FREAKING MCDONALDS.... I would work at Mcdonalds if I needed a job so dont take that the wrong way... but you arent too good for anything when you dont do anything! Oh... and he claims to be an "Electrician" which I know you need a license for... and hasnt been in the Navy since 1999/2000.... so... yeah... experience eventually goes out the door with the times... and he WASNT an ELECTRICIAN... he was an ELECTRONICS TECHNICIAN... COMPLETELY DIFFERENT.... and if HE is an ELECTRICIAN... then my husband is CHIEF ELECTRICIAN of the planet... (they had the same navy job)
So.. anyways... the lawyer said that my uncle can split up all the belongings in the house when he comes up later this month (oh.. yeah... come up when money is on the line.... but not to just see your mother cause you love her) soo... there is this bedroom set that my grandmother had purchased when she was in the assisted living... my grandmother knows that I would have liked the bedroom set when my grandmother goes... and she agreed that I would be able to have it... and my mother knows of my wishes... Kiley still sleeps in a toddler bed... and well... I was going to have the bedroom set so that Ashley would be able to sleep in it and Kiley would get Ashley's old one. So, NOW my sister who has been living at my mothers house high and dry x 15 months wants the bedroom set for her daughter. My mother purchased a bed for my niece several years ago... so... SHE HAS A BED.... I am NOT going to fight over this.... when my sister moved in to my mothers house... my mother had a nice dining set with 8 chairs... I have one here with 4 chairs (I have a family of 6 now) my sister has a family of 4 and had a dining set large enough for her family... well... my mom offered up the dining set and my sister took that too..
it has been years of my sister treating me the way my uncle treats my mother and the way my grandmother treats my mother.... I am NOT going to succomb to her treating me like crap the way she treated me last summer in Florida... I am going to live my life... if she wants to milk something else off my mother... let her.. I am sure she is more entitled.... since I live 54 miles away and cant go to the nursing home to mooch my grandmother... and be the "golden child"
I was just SO furious..... but my mom assured me that the bed set would be mine....