I went on a "mini vacation" if that is what you want to call it... to my mother's house. I decided several months ago I did not want the girls staying up there for several reasons. Since my mother and father have returned from Florida, the girls obviously would want to go sleep at Grandma's so I went with them for several reasons!
I needed to get out of these 4 walls...
I wanted to see if being out of this home environment, CJ would improve health wise. Which, in some aspects he did...
I wanted to be able to see Grandma Goff and allow the girls to see her... and for Grandma Goff to see the baby.
I just wanted to spend some time with my parents considering they are in Florida 1/2 the year now.
I am nervous that people who I did not want to know about this blog have found out about it. I want this to be my thoughts without making people angry about my thoughts and feelings. I have people invited here who are neutral to my thoughts and opinions and whose feelings wont be hurt by what I have to say. I have invited people here who will support me even if they dont completely agree with what I have to say. We are all different people from all different walks of life and should have an understanding that not everyone is going to agree. That philosophy does not fly in my family. It is their beliefs, or be gone. They really get their panties in a wad when their spawn doesnt believe the same things they do. They take it personally....
Example #1... I do not believe in circumcision. If someone is asking for information regarding NOT having it done with their son, I will freely hunt down the information and make sure you get an eye or ear full... whether I am going to talk about it or send you a whole slew of internet information. AND NO my son is NOT circumcised and it was in God's plan for me to have matured enough before blessing me with a son because when I was 21 and more naive, I would have circumcised Ashley had she been born a boy! ACK! I can not even think of it. Thankfully, my dear husband agrees with me.
Example #2.... the more I have matured, the more I have agreed that breastfeeding is the way to go! Here I am with my 7 month plus son and milk jugs in front of me 24/7.... and being available for a feeding frenzy whenever the man/boy beckons!
so... well... as you can guess... my parents do not agree with me. They are so much against what I think that my mother's jewish neighbor Bertha offered for me to have a "bris" on her kitchen table. Umm..... huh?????
God, I have lost the meaning of this blog.... but I am home... and beware. I have pictures to upload.
Happy 14th Birthday, Alyssa
7 months ago
2 comments:
I am sorry that you have parents who don't believe in what you are doing Erin. I sadly know all too well what that is like. Someone has said to me something that I think could be very true in my case and perhaps yours as well. Perhaps your parents judgments against you for not circumsizing your son or breastfeeding him are from their own insecurities. Perhaps they are offended because you didn't do things the way they did them. So instead of them viewing this as you just trying to be the best parent you can be to your children they are viewing it as an insult to them. A shame that they would think that way, but it does kind of make sense. I hope your parents come around better than mine seem to have so far.
I can relate to parents who don't approve of what you are doing. It can be really frustrating!! Welcome home, I hope you had a decent time! (We got home this morning at 1:00. Ugh!)
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