I am not too stressed out yet about moving.... I have grown used to being in one place for the past 3 years now. This is the LONGEST We have lived anywhere in our whole marriage. (10 years in July!)
So... people wonder how I deal with the stress and anticipation of an upcoming move (or NOT!)
I guess it becomes more exciting to us. It is something that can become addictive once you start doing it all the time. We have had the itch to move for quite a while. Hmm... maybe since we first moved here. We lived in Hawaii for 16 months. We lived in an apartment in Rhode Island for 11 months then purchased a home because we THOUGHT he was going to not continue his Navy career. So, we lived in that house from 8/01 until 11/03. We then moved to Washington state and lived there from right after Thanksgiving 2003 until April 2005. So, that was 1 1/2 years and in that short amount of time, we thought we were moving to Guam in September 2004 but that all fell through. Then in January 2005 when Kiley was just 1 month old and 2 weeks out of the NICU Chris had to go away to Corps School in Great Lakes, IL. I stayed behind in WA. When he finished Corps School in April 2005 we moved to Wichita Falls TX and lived there from May 2005 until April 2006... 11 months. We got here in May 2006 and have been here since so this is a LONG time for us!
What am I stressed about??? Mostly about being here in CT for 2 more years. I do NOT want to live another winter here. It is ok though. Having thought about the things that ARE good makes me ok with being here. I am so grateful for the Doctors I have for Sydney and the Dentist we have for the kids. THAT in itself is plenty to make me satisfied with being here. IF by some chance we are still here next July, that means Chris made Chief this year. A GOOD thing. An advancement in his Naval career and more pay for us. BUT with that could come a deployment overseas. Which is OK. Am I worried about that??? Yes. And no. I am a military wife. I have dealt with him being away from us for periods of time. A deployment? No. None of the girls can even recall a time when Daddy was away for a long period of time. THAT has me worried but I still know I will be ok. The kids will be ok. We would have to cut out some of the activities we currently participate in because I do not depend on anyone to help me with anything (a fault of mine?) They are MY children. I feel they are MY responsibility. And honestly, I dont really trust many people to take care of them the way I take care of them. Or my husband.
I am worried about the transitions for the kids. They only really know HERE as home. The one thing that is helpful in this is that their good friends move away. ALL the time. So, they wont be leaving long friendships behind. Sad... I know. Being a military kid is not ideal. BUT on the flipside being a military child allows them to do things and see things many other kids will NEVER get the chance to do or see. How many kids have been born somewhere exotic like Hawaii.. have seen Mt. Rushmore, Grand Canyon, been to Tijuana Mexico on Cinco De Mayo, been to San Diego and all its wonderful site, hiked part of Mt. Rainier... viewed Mt. St. Helens, Walked around Yellowstone park and witnessed the beauty of Ol' Faithful? Disney multiple times, have been to more states in this great country than the ones they have NOT been to?
The internet is making it easier for us to keep in touch with all of these people who are gone or are left behind. Perk? Maybe, Maybe not.
So... yes.. it is tumultuous and stressful anticipating a move.... but, exciting. The unknown... We dont know where we will be in a year. Or less. We dont know if Daddy will go away between now and whenever. We dont know. The Navy doesnt know. What we do know is that the detailer has said he will not move us any further than Norfolk, VA. BUT that can always change too.
There are pros and cons to every option. I have written them down from time to time to avoid making a choice (which ultimately is NOT our choice) we regret. There are things we have liked and disliked about every place we have lived. We miss the good things and often forget the day to day bad things. Which will sometimes make us want to go back. Every place becomes the same. You still have to do the day to day things that make life miserable at times. Living in Hawaii ( A BEAUTIFUL place) became the same as if you lived in the middle of Idaho in the winter. YOU STILL have to live. YOU STILL have to work. There is the same amount of "play" time to do the things you WANT. Ok... maybe I was kidding! LOL! Or NOT. Seriously. Wherever we are is where we are. There will be good and bad. Happy and Sad. Sounds totally bipolar doesnt it? It is. There are so many highs and lows and they can change from one hour to the next. We had 21 hours of thinking we were going to Baltimore. Then that changed that FAST. NOW we are back again full circle to Baltimore depending on if he makes Chief which we will not know until around August.
So... that is where we stand. Confused, anxious, exciting... anticipating whatever the Navy sees fit... which will probably turn out to be NONE of the above!
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Hehehehe, very wishy washy aren't we Erin ;). I obviously have never experienced a big move. I guess it helps when they move you of course. Takes a little of the pressure off. The constant changing would drive me nuts though. I'm still upset that our TN plans fell through. I have a friend who's hubby is in the air force. They've only moved a handful of times, but right now they are in the midst of a move from OH to England! I won't hear from her for a while to find out how it's going because she has no internet, but I know she was having a very stressful time of it these last few weeks. There were like three or four separate orders for them to go too, but she just took it all with stride. She's very excited for this opportunity for her and her kids.
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